Once upon a time your girl was duped, till this very moment I still don’t know or understand how this guy got to me, all I remember is that we went to the ATM and I withdrew most of my feeding allowance and gave this guy. He told me he was coming back and he disappeared. This period was very tough because I didn’t have much money again and I couldn’t go my parents for money. There were some days I starved and some days I had to beg some friends for food, I was too ashamed to tell them about my ordeal. Beyond the hunger and lack of money something stood out for me during this time. As heartbroken as I was, I found myself praying for his salvation, I will always ask God to protect him and save him. I literally forgave this guy without him even asking for forgiveness. There and then I knew I had actually started growing.
Forgiveness, in a psychological sense, is the intentional and voluntary process by which one who may initially feel victimized, undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding a given offence, and overcomes negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance.Wikipedia
The process of forgiving is one of the most difficult things to do in life; especially if you had given all your trust to the person or people and they in return hurt you terribly. I call it a process because it definitely a process; first you get hurt, then there is the heart break, the anger against the people and to yourself too, you might be feeling terrible for trusting, then you have the letting go, deciding to forgive. Forgiving people for hurting us doesn’t mean we are weak, or low self esteemed rather it makes us stronger and less burdened.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.Ephecians 4:32
Interestingly, sometimes when we say we have forgiven those that hurt us, somehow, somewhere in our hearts we still find ourselves wishing them bad. It is very important that we go through these processes. However, until we finally reach the stage of letting go and having good intensions towards those that hurt us. Forgiving is a process, we have to first make up our minds to forgive, then we can watch ourselves set those souls and ourselves free from the shackles of anger, hatred, pains and what have you.
Forgiving is not a piece of cake but we can do it, one day at a time. Talking to the Lord about it also helps during this process. Tell him exactly how you feel even if all you want to see this person hurt, tell the Lord EVERYTHING! And believe me this helps all the time.